A Hierarchy of Shame

Hello friends

This post is about the shame that still surrounds sexual violence. In particular I’m asking Survivors if you have been able to ask your employer for support in the workplace–and if so, if you’ve been able to talk openly about the abuse you’ve suffered.

In this audio

I acknowledge that we’ve made progress in the UK in terms of supporting people in the work place with long term health conditions.

There seems to be a hierarchy of shame–whereby it’s probably easier to disclose a physical disability than a mental health problem.  If you’re a veteran and have PTSD it could be that there is more awareness surrounding the diagnosis.

More needs to be done to enable us to be more open.

I hid behind a “mental health” label for years but this just excacerbated my sense of shame

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Laura Black says:

    Being open at work was a process of taking small risks that increased through time. I started by saying I had anxiety, then depression, then PTSD, then told them about my breakdown. Upon returning to work after being signed off for six months, I started to be more open (only with my closest colleagues) about the abuse. I’ve recently explained about it to my line manager as well. But all of this only happened because with each ‘manageable risk’ I gained some confidence. But I’m lucky that I work for a firm of psychologists, so possibly they are more receptive than the average workplace is.


    1. Yes. I agree taking small risks seems to be the way to go. You and I have followed a similar path, in that it took a breakdown for us to have to be more open. I guess that working for a team of psychologists would help too. Thanks for the feedback Laura

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